Monday, July 11, 2011

Mushy stuff...

I came across this article... And I love it.
I love these 4 points...

First, there must be the proper approach toward marriage, which contemplates the selection of a spouse who reaches as nearly as possible the pinnacle of perfection in all the matters which are of importance to the individuals. And then those two parties must come to the altar in the temple realizing that they must work hard toward this successful joint living.

Second, there must be a great unselfishness, forgetting self and directing all of the family life and all pertaining thereunto to the good of the family, subjugating self.

Third, there must be continued courting and expressions of affection, kindness, and consideration to keep love alive and growing.

Fourth, there must be a complete living of the commandments of the Lord as defined in the gospel of Jesus Christ.

 You always hear women complain about their husband. It was briefly mentioned on Sunday how husbands have downfalls and short comings, and you know that look that everyone gets on their face like "Oh I know exactly what you're talking about" I don't remember the exact comment, or the whole conversation, but I do remember very clearly thinking to myself..."Am I crazy, or is there something wrong with me, because, I am so happy and in love, and so head over heels for my husband?" We've been  married 5+ years, I don't think we're still in the newly wed stage of our relationship. But I still get butterflies in my stomach when he reaches to hold my hand. My heart races when he goes to kiss me. I still blush when I'm all dressed up for date night and I catch him checking me out. I get the dumbest smile on my face when I see his picture pop up because he's calling me. I don't think I love you even begins to explain how I feel when I say it. Okay enough of the mushy stuff.  You get the point, I adore him. But I think that there are several things that have created our happiness.

First, I got really lucky that Mike is the man that he is. That part I can take no credit for. 

Next, I can't tell you how much joy it brings to my heart that he NEEDS me. I mean, this is a man who can't even make mac n cheese without asking me for directions. I love fixing his plate and cutting his chicken into bite size pieces and serving it to him. I love taking care of him.
He feels the same way...Well, I guess, I can't speak for him, but his actions speak pretty loudly.  He always brings me a cup of water to bed and reminds me to get my q tips, nose spray, and carmex. {I have a very specific bedtime routine}... It's the little things. 

Mike isn't really romantic, So I took matters into my own hands. I love surprises! But Mike is just too busy to think of those things, So I helped him out, I put reminders in his phone calendar every month that say, "take your wife some flowers, just because" or "your wife would love her favorite candy bar when you come home from work, that'd be a great surprise" I feel special, and he gets the joy of seeing my face when he walks in the door with candy!!! 

We go on dates. Mini golf, movies, sno cones, dinner, diaper shopping, bowling, whatever it is, we enjoy our time together to laugh, flirt, and remember why we fell in love. 

We pray together, and we discuss the scriptures. I love learning from him. 
We don't argue. Really. We leave the issue alone until we have both had time to think about it, and then talk about it later, In private, NEVER in front of our children. If I won't leave something alone Mike will say, {in the most calm demeanor you could ever imagine} Kyrsten, I'm not going to talk about it until you're ready. Which usually fires me up more, But that's just who he is, and that's just who I am, and somehow, We've found a way to resolve things, that works for us, and doesn't take away the spirit of our home. 

There are a few other things that probably go without saying, But I will say look for the positive and pretty soon, you won't see the negative.

1 comment:

  1. I know how you feel. In the 12 years Theo and I have been married it just keeps getting sweeter and sweeter! Being in the military I would hear other ladies express how they couldn't wait until their husbands got deployed and out of their hair. I couldn't believe what they were saying and I definitely never could relate. My chest literally feels like someone is sitting on it whenever he would get deployed and I would ache waiting for him to get home. I really believe that when you strive to live the Lord's commandments you can't help but be more susceptible to the pure love of a spouse.